Is it smarter for a man to save his marriage after an affair or to insist on a divorce?


Everybody is good!Welcome to weiqing Happiness Institute.Recently, our platform received a message for help from Ms. Liu.She said she was devastated that her husband had been having an affair with a woman for a long time.”My husband and I have been happily married for eight years and have a six-year-old daughter.The husband’s father was a merchant and his family was well off.My parents are both university teachers, although not very wealthy family, but also a scholarly family.I first met my husband at a dinner arranged by my parents.At that time, he had just come back from studying in The UK, and his gentle manner attracted me.Then, with the help of my parents, it was a natural progression for us to be together.I always thought my husband was the one!But to my dismay, I recently found out that he was having an affair with a woman.When I asked him who he was, he said he was a classmate of his when he was studying in The UK.Instead, I found that their chat logs were explicit, and I told him to cut off contact and distance himself from the woman, but he refused.One time I looked through his phone and found that every holiday he gave that woman a red envelope, not only a substantial amount of money, but also an even more ambiguous note, which drove me crazy.I had a big fight with him, filed for divorce, and threatened to tell his parents about his affair.Hearing my words, he apologized to me and begged for forgiveness, fearing that his parents would cut off his financial support.I was miserable and did not want to divorce, but I could not accept his ambiguous ambiguous relationship with another woman.What the hell am I supposed to do now?If it happens, my parents will lose face, and I’m afraid of being hurt again.What I don’t understand is, I’m not beautiful, but I’m beautiful. Why doesn’t he appreciate it?”Help: Ms. Liu (Surname of Hua).Note: the content has been privacy treatment, with my consent before publication.Weiqing marriage consultant replied: Hello Ms. Liu!Thank you for your support and trust in us.After reading your message, I can understand how you feel now.From your comments, I can feel the pain your husband’s infidelity caused you.But still hope you first calm mood, sad for this matter, hurt the body is not worth.Your husband knows he has a family, but he still keeps an affair with another woman. It seems that English gentleman education has failed him to be a gentleman.It is recommended that you keep your wits about you and have a calm conversation with your husband to see if his repentance is genuine, and then make your next move based on his performance.Your husband and you met because your parents met each other through a needle and a needle. This means that your parents are very close to each other, and if they do go their separate ways, it will affect their relationship.In addition, your child is young and you should try to repair and save your marriage in order to give her a complete home.Although it is shameful for a man to cheat on his marriage, it is still worthy of recognition as long as he can correct his mistakes.You and your husband have been married for eight years and have a strong emotional foundation. Instead of ending your marriage and suffering, try to persuade him to return to the family.There is a need for forgiveness in marriage. As long as your husband promises to keep normal communication with the woman in the future, you don’t have to have him break up with her.If his heart is not in you, then even if he can cut off that woman, there will be more…Hopefully the above analysis and suggestions will help you.If you have any other emotional problems, please send me a message.

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